Hello people,
I was wondering and having some conflicting thoughts on “who is a true-friend???”, ” what is a true friend suppose to do???”, “Do you have to keep calling him/her regularly???”, “Do you have to hang-out regular???”, “Do you have to keep saying he is your best-friend every other time???”.
I think thats a lot of questions. I was thinking about all the friends that I had from my childhood till date…
I remember some of them very well and the rest, I know they studied with me, they went to school along with me but they were not really close to me when I was along with them. So how do we decide who is close and who is not??? how do you consider a person is close or not even when you are not in continuous touch with that person??? Well everyone might have a different call on this but this is what I felt and hence would like to put it across to all of you to know your views.
You meet a person for the first time and you start talking with him/her introducing yourself. Then you get a chance to meet this person again you start to exchange some more information about each other. In this process you start to feel either comfortable or uncomfortable depending on the frequency match. When you enjoy spending time with this person and when you feel you can be good friends, you tend to get along well and you get the feeling of belongingness.
Here comes a point when you tend to take things for granted. Is that correct or wrong???
When I say you tend to take things for granted I meant, you take it for granted that this new friend of yours is there for you when ever you need him/her. You take it for granted that he/she is a very good friend of your’s. You take it for granted that he/she understands you in different situations. This is what I felt always and this is what I still believe in.
Hence once you take it for granted that he/she is a very good friend of yours… “how often do you contact him/her???” Rather let me put the question this way “How often should you contact him/her???”
I would like to say, in the day to day life it might not be possible to keep in touch with everyone whom you meet. But its always the feeling that is important and its always the respect that you maintain for that person thats important. I would like to mention about some of my very good friends. I have not talked with them in months now, I have not even made a phone call and in fact when one of them called me, I told I will call him back because I was busy and never called him back. But even today I am 200% sure, that if I call him we will be as close as we always were and if we meet each other we would enjoy time as good as we were always connected.
On the other hand if my friend needed my help, I knew for sure that he would contact me. I knew for sure that if he had any trouble he would contact me. So I would like to say that true friends always stay connected, whether they call each other regularly or not, whether they meet each other regularly or not, whether they hang out every weekend or not.
A true friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else. — Len Wein
Well guys this is what I feel and I promise all of you… I am here anytime when you need any kind of help…
I will be there for you the moment you feel you need someone… I will be there for you if you feel in your heart that I am a good friend of yours.
If you feel anything different from what I mentioned in this blog, or if you agree with this… please leave your comments because I would like to know what you all think.
Thanks,
Chaitanya.
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